They thought they were teaching me how to be nice, polite and well- behaved. What they were actually teaching me was to be invisible, that my thoughts and feelings didn’t matter and that it wasn’t ok to stand up for myself.
“They” were my parents. They were 100% well-intentioned. They loved me and were doing their best based on their own experiences of life.
The problem with placing a lot of importance on being nice and polite is that there really isn’t room for “you” in your life.