It doesn’t feel like that long ago (although it was actually 2004) that things were starting to go pear – shaped in my life. Having had jobs as a nurse and midwife I was a community educator, maternal- infant health advocate and mother to three young children – one with a serious, chronic illness, I was stressed, exhausted, had chronic back pain, and it looked like I was developing IBS. I had a history of burnout because of busting a gut in everything I did. However I looked at my life, I just saw things that I didn’t want to see. I had zero insight into why these things were happening, or what I could do about them. In other words, I felt powerless.
Then, as so often happens when we have come to our wits end, out of the blue I was recommended Louise Hay’s book “You Can heal Your Life” - a book that exposed me to two ideas that went on to change my life. The first was that our thoughts influence how we experience things and the second: that we are all good enough as we are (and therefore worthy of unconditional love). As someone who, despite external appearances, actually had very little confidence, and who had always tried to be good enough by being perfect, these ideas were a complete revelation and precipitated a life-saving journey back to health, happiness and resilience. Later on, these principles helped me navigate the subsequent enormous challenges of supporting a transgender child through their transition and caring for a child after a life-threatening accident.
I went on to become a Heal Your Life Teacher and Coach and also experienced, learned about and trained in many, many other tools, techniques and approaches to personal growth and healing; and these inevitably inform and enhance my work. While teaching, coaching, facilitating Women’s Circles and the wonderful Conversations Game every day (to this day) I keep coming back to those two original concepts: that our thoughts influence the experiences we have and that we are good enough as we are. I’ve come to see that - regardless of the problem - they are the cornerstones of healing and change.
Then in 2015 a door opened for me to become a Mindfulness Meditation Instructor. During my three years of training with the University of Holistic Theology in the US and the Gawler Cancer Foundation in Australia, I kept wondering how this new skill that I was developing related to the Mindset mentoring work I was already doing. Near the end of my third year the answer suddenly came: because self-love is a very distant (sometimes unimaginable) goal for many people, they need a more manageable first step. And Mindfulness helps to develop self acceptance! It was that perfect first step towards self love, because although we use the expressing "love and accept ourself" in fact, I realized that many people need to do it the other way around… to learn to accept themselves first, then they are able to move towards loving themselves. That’s why I offer both Mindset and Mindfulness – because both are pathways to self love.
Everything I do is about walking alongside you and gently supporting you to discover (and more importantly - experience) the wealth of capability, love, and health that is inside you, and to loosen the hold that fear, insecurity, self –consciousness and old hurts have had on you.
In essence, the thread that runs through my life and work is one of finding ways and means to help myself and other people feel whole… healed… empowered and to deeply know that we are ok as we are. Acting from this place of okayness is what I believe allows us to heal and feel so much better.